Tantra for Mismatched Libido

Is this you?

• One of you wants more sex than the other
• You're fighting about it
• The higher-libido partner feels rejected
• The lower-libido partner feels pressured

What the research says

Esther Perel's and Emily Nagoski's work emphasizes responsive vs spontaneous desire as a key frame: lower-libido partners often have responsive desire that emerges in the right context, not absent desire.

How tantra approaches this

We do not try to make the libidos equal. We build a shared practice that respects both partners and creates context for responsive desire to emerge.

Recommended practices

• The "shared practice" agreement (beginner, ~60 min) — Establishes intimacy practice that does not require both partners to want sex at the same time.

When to see a doctor instead

If one partner has a medical libido issue, address it.