Is this you?
- You agree to sex out of duty
What the research says
Duty-sex correlates with long-term sexual decline.
How tantra approaches this
Dismantles the duty frame. Pleasure as the only valid entry point.
Couples issues · For couples
Tantra When Sex Feels Obligatory
When sex has become an obligation in the partnership.
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Last reviewed: 2026-06-10 · Reading time ~6 min
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